I'm experiencing gay thoughts and feelings

First of all, thanks for your honesty. There are loads of young people out there with similar issues who never confront them, so thanks for taking this first step.

You say that because you're a Christian, you know you can't be gay, but you feel that you are. It's probably a good idea to decide what we mean by the term, 'gay'. There is a difference between sexual orientation and sinful behaviour.

Your sexual orientation seems to be 'gay', in other words your unchosen feelings and the attractions you have. But that's the point - they're unchosen - you have not decided to feel this way.

YOU NEED TO KNOW THAT THERE IS NOTHING IN THE BIBLE THAT CONDEMNS THE WAY YOU ARE FEELING.

It is only your response to those feelings which could be wrong.

Sinful behaviour in this area consists of those acts of the will, when you decide to act on how you feel. Homosexual practise is condemned in the Bible along with many other things.

I believe the good news for you is that the temptations that you feel can be overcome. Check this out...

"No temptation is irresistable. You can trust God to keep the temptation from becoming so strong that you can't stand up against it, for he has promised this and will do what he says. He will show you how to escape temptation's power so that you can bear up patiently against it". (1 Corinthians 10:13)

Did you get that?...

You can have victory over this area of your life. If you stand firm in wanting to please God, He may or may not take away these feelings you have, but His promise to you is that you can overcome each moment of temptation to act on how you feel.

So, embrace God's offer of help, set your mind on having victory over your actions, and don't feel condemned. God's love for you is massive...His power to help you is infinite...and His compassion for your specific situation is more than you can imagine!

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